by Kathy Cannon Wiechman
The X chromosome makes us female. XX is a girl; XY is a boy. That’s basically all I remembered from biology class about chromosomes.
But I learned a great deal more about that X after my grandson was diagnosed with Fragile X Syndrome (FXS). It seems that a mutation of that X chromosome causes this syndrome, and it’s genetic.
FXS is a “spectrum” disorder that can cause speech problems, learning disabilities, extreme shyness, sensory issues, hand flapping, autism, and severe mental retardation. It can be detected with a blood test, and our family lined up to be tested after our grandson’s diagnosis.
I don’t carry it, but my husband does. Both my daughters carry it, but not my sons. (It can’t be passed father-to-son because it’s an X chromosome.) All three of my grandchildren have it, and they exhibit different degrees of “special needs.”
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| Kathy with her grandchildren |
We have learned a great deal about genetics, but we’ve learned even more about love and “specialness” from our grandkids.
A nun friend once told me that “God gives special children to special people.” I am proud of the mothers my daughters have become, and I feel blessed to be part of this wonderful family.
To learn more about Fragile X, go here.
A lovely and thoughtful post. Sending hugs to you and your family. The kids have a special grandma too.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Ann. And I have special friends.
DeleteYou are such an amazing woman, mother and grandmother! Love to you, special lady!
ReplyDeleteThat comment from one of the most special mothers I know is a real compliment. Thank you for the compliment & the love.
DeleteWonderful post by a great grandmother :)
ReplyDeleteThank you so much.
Deletethose on the margins teach the rest of us a great deal. It works both ways
ReplyDeleteAnd we often have little say in the hand we are dealt. Might as well make the best of it & open our hearts to the possibilities. Thanks for your comment.
DeleteWhat an enlightening post and it is wonderful that a loving Grandma is spreading the knowledge so others can learn and be aware.
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Thank you. I think it's important for people to be aware that there are often reasons for something like autism, & you or your child can be tested for it. That way you can make educated decisions about future children.
DeleteThis is such a wonderful and brave post. I know a small about about FXS, mostly from my biology classes. I've never met someone in real life (is this real life if I still haven't exactly met you?) who has had loved ones affected by it.
ReplyDeleteYou seem like to perfect grandmother to some excellently special kids :)
Thank you for your kind words. I think thre should be a real life category for people who have conversations on the blogosphere, even if they've never met face-to-face.
DeleteBe proud, your grandchildren look absolutely beautiful. God Bless.
ReplyDeleteI am proud. Thank you and God bless you, too.
DeleteWhat a beautiful post. I love the quote from your nun friend. It might not always hold true, but I've met my share of special children and their very special families--always an inspiration.
ReplyDeleteThank you. I know several mothers of special-needs kids, & they inspire me every day.
DeleteYour grandchildren are so lucky to have you!
ReplyDeleteThanks, my dear friend. I feel I'm the lucky one.
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